For anyone with a strong self-awareness, finding a romantic partner is likely to take longer. This is because we know what type of person is most likely to compliment us and we aren't willing to settle for less out of insecurity and the need for an attachment. This is a positive thing. It takes a lot of inner strength to resist opting for less than we deserve.
Most of these relationships are likely to fail anyway because the dynamic doesn't work and inevitable friction ensues, as one or both of the partners struggle to preserve their independence or the fire simply burns out.
By focusing on self-development first, we have to trust that we will naturally attract a partner, as opposed to actively seeking one.
Be proud that you know yourself well enough to not just give yourself away easily. There is so much wholeness we can find within ourselves first and when two whole individuals come together a transcendent connection will be birthed.