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I Am A Woman and So!?

I get into an argument with a man, he slaps me, I feel the pain, yet they tell me I provoked him. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him.I get into an argument with a man, I slap him, they tell me I have no respect, no home training. I should have been quiet, I should have been patient. I should apologize to him. (With regards to the African custom where it is wrong for a woman to slap her husband).Because I am a woman, I don’t have a right to be angry. So, the degree of my innocence is directly proportional to the degree of my silence in the face of oppression...

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The Joy of Loneliness

“I am lonely. So very lonely,” she told me one day."Please, tell me of your loneliness", I said.“Nothing can help me, you see. No person. No substance.No experience the world has to offer. Everything offers only brief respite.I soon plunge back into my own loneliness.Where nothing and no-one can reach me.On this tiny planet spinning in infinite night,I am lonesome. I feel far from wherever things are.I have not been able to escape this feeling.I think it has been with me since the beginning of time.But then, I tell myself, I must turn towards this desolation.Let me no longer be ashamed or frightened of my alienation. Let me own it, hold it close.And let me cry out into the clear...

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We Are Warriors of Anxiety

Sometimes anxiety lives as a gentle rumble in the background of our daily lives. But sometimes, the floodgates of our experience are flung wide open, and raw anxiety surges in the body like a tidal wave. Maybe we are going through a tough time in our lives, a crisis, a change, the end of a relationship, an illness, the sickness or death of a loved one, or the falling-away of an old dream or "safety net", and scary thoughts trigger an anxiety response in the body. Maybe our anxiety comes out of nowhere. Maybe we are touching into a past trauma, and old painful feelings are threatening to emerge into conscious awareness. Maybe we are simply imagining things that aren’t...

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When Discomfort Knocks...

Just sitting with discomfort, without trying to escape it or numb it in any way, without expectation, without a goal in mind, without seeking anything, including some abstract notion of ‘peace’ or 'comfort'... well, that’s the juicy place, the place of creative transformation. For many years, I would sit with grief, frustration, anger, fear, pain, loneliness, resting in that bubbling, burning mess for hours, without trying to escape or fix my experience, without a dream, without hope, without time itself … until peace was discovered in the midst of that storm - the unshakeable, non-conceptual, ever-present Being that I am, and have always been.  Instead of trying to escape discomfort, we let discomfort reveal its deeper secrets. We sit with...

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By Jeff Brown

It has been my experience that the one that families call the “crazy one” is often the sane one. This is particularly true in very dysfunctional families where ideas of healthy functioning are turned upside down. In these families, members often repress their authentic feelings and turn against anyone who reminds them of their unresolved issues and patterns. As a result, the truth-speakers, the ones who refuse to contain their feelings, those who challenge and humanize the toxic status quo, are often scapegoated and vilified, made to feel crazy by those who lack the courage and insight to see beyond the family's madness. If you have been labeled the 'crazy one', take heart. You are truly not alone. Most great...

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